Its one thing spotting a narcissist, and what that person is doing to you, its quite another thing being able to do something about it. This article in Psychology today, describes some of the signs of narcissist abuse and also the common phrases that they use. There are a number of ways, and I am seriously no expert, apart from considerable personal experience, in trying … Continue reading 4 helpful questions for dealing with narcissist leaders
Which is quite a relief. Isnt it. The amount of times I hear, ‘but we’re just a bunch of old people, no young people will relate to us’ – or ‘we’re just too different from them’ or ‘we’re too old’ … And it makes me sometimes want to scream. The fact may well be that unless youv’e been blessed with an eternal youth or maybe … Continue reading Church; Be thankful that being young and trendy isnt the starting point to developing good youth work
Think about all the expectations thrust upon a child or a young person: youll grow up to be like your mum work hard and youll get good results what will you do when you grow up you need to get to university you need to just cope you must fit in you must be different you must conform you must look a certain way you … Continue reading In such a high expectancy culture – young people are in deficit of empathy more than ever
I was at a conference on Saturday, and, you know that thing where you’re listening to someone from he front, or in church involved in something, and what you know you forget, and you kind of get stuck in the trap of agreeing with the perspective of the person, and not engaging critical mindset, because youre thinking No No No – but you get stuck … Continue reading Is the biggest mistake in youth ministry to keep making presumptions about young people?
My most recent post highlighted the problem of developing practices of youth work due to the social or moral Anxiety about young people. The fear of young people being victims of crime, the fear of anti social behaviour, the fears of poor education or the less than specific ‘life outcomes’. These fears perpetuated by the media, create a narrative and cause policies and initiatives, often … Continue reading Why young people arent the answer to the church’s status anxiety, they deserve better.
He was always new, always fresh, always beginning again Is what one of the recent biographers wrote of St Francis of Assisi, one of the early proponents of the order of the franciscans in the 13th Century. (Aside from the extract below you can google yourself his life plan) . Last week I picked up for £1 in a charity shop a little book on this … Continue reading St Francis of Assisi: The Patron Saint of detached youthwork?
Its a conference, its a gathering of leaders, gathered usually because of a Ministry wanting to start somewhere, set up by a ministry usually from ‘The South’ (its never ‘The South’ is it ? its always ‘The North’) and they send up someone to talk at this gathering. It often happened in Scotland at national conferences, the blokey from the south would be up to … Continue reading “God’s given me a real heart for ‘The North’” (and heres how im going to prove it to you)
Weekend dog-walks usually take me, either down to the beach, around the Burn Valley, or up through family wood, and around Summerhill park, on the western edge of Hartlepool. Summerhill is a myriad of paths, through recently populated woodland, with added facilities like a climbing wall and BMX tracks hidden within, either to be avoided or found depending on your perspective. Summerhill is also not … Continue reading The Path
Recently, along with thinking about culture, values and interpreting, ive been thinking on a number of levels about the subject of compassion – or more pertinently its been a subject that without deliberate intention has been hitting on me. A few weeks ago i was asked to help out at the local high school at their philosophy day, during which i was working with one … Continue reading Thoughts on Compassion