What happens when the ‘free gifts’ (during the pandemic) disappear?

Imagine if you will the distant tropical island, remote, isolated, some might say disengaging with society, think of its green trees, natural resources, and the civilisation that has lived there for centuries. The civilisation that does what it does already to survive, labours in the land, uses resources for shelter and warmth, and knows how to maintain the island, because by doing so knows that … Continue reading What happens when the ‘free gifts’ (during the pandemic) disappear?

Contains Trauma: Handle with Care

Maybe I’m the sensitive one? Maybe I’m the critical one? Maybe I’m the one triggered? After receiving trauma therapy. In the beginning of a personal remake from Trauma. In the process of learning about trauma from reading, and attending a few introductory sessions on this subject, and following therapists and trauma specialists on social media. I am not the only one concerned. Dealing with Trauma … Continue reading Contains Trauma: Handle with Care

‘Is church social action; Colonialism wearing the mask of love?’

Love is patient Love is Kind Love is not self serving Love… I have to thank both Cormac Russell and Jen Johnson for the stimulation to write this piece. In a twitter conversation this week Cormac shared the phrase itself, or a variant of it here How often , as Candice points out do organisations use the term ‘non engaging’, ‘resilient’ and ‘hard to reach’. … Continue reading ‘Is church social action; Colonialism wearing the mask of love?’

Communique; The lost art to help make our youth work practice go deep

Its not often that I’m inspired by what the Amercians are doing in their youth ministry practice that I think could be replicated in the UK. Often its too programmed or packaged, and the context of american evangelicals needs a severe critical scrutiny, however, In a conversation with youth worker Chuck Mellor from University of California UCLA, he was describing to me the concept of … Continue reading Communique; The lost art to help make our youth work practice go deep

How did unhealed Trauma affect my Youthwork?

I can honestly say that all of these affected my youthwork practice, they were going to, they affected my whole life. The strange thing was that I thought all of these things were normal. And that there was no way of not having all of these. But that’s what Trauma did to me. Thats what being brought up by a psychopath did to me. So. … Continue reading How did unhealed Trauma affect my Youthwork?

‘Youth worker, heal thyself’ (Acknowledging how trauma affected my practice)

Its a reasonable thing to say, that you were probably working with young people as a way of compensating from the broken childhood that you had (My Therapist) I was always aware that I had a number of people to be grateful for, for being the youth leaders, supportive adults to me during my own teenage life, and there’s no doubt that these people inspired … Continue reading ‘Youth worker, heal thyself’ (Acknowledging how trauma affected my practice)

Generation X, is it now healing from Baby Boomer parents?

(This blog is written by James and Christelle to accompany their latest video which is here, in which we ask the same question. We would like to prompt a conversation about this, and would like to hear from you and invite you into the conversation. This blog was also published on ‘Healing for Men’, but I thought it was worth adding here as Theres a lot … Continue reading Generation X, is it now healing from Baby Boomer parents?

Stories of Youth Worker Burnout #ycwchat (*doesn’t just apply to youth workers)

  On Monday 1st March , the theme of the twitter chat (#ycwchat) was ‘Burnout’ . It was by one of the most contributed to chats, and it was suggested that I write up the responses to the questions that were given. I have tried to include every response, as it was said in the chat and I’ve included all the contributors at the end … Continue reading Stories of Youth Worker Burnout #ycwchat (*doesn’t just apply to youth workers)

Youthworker – Do you need to step out of the drama triangle?

Hey Youth and community worker, do you know about the drama triangle? No? Well, here it is: This version is taken from this article ‘Are you stuck in a Drama triangle’   The Drama triangle, first identified by Stephen Karpman in 1968, is a model that describes the interplay of three stereotypical egotistical roles people take up the heat of the moment, in conflict. (Tombs, Joel … Continue reading Youthworker – Do you need to step out of the drama triangle?